Writing Roadblocks: Recovering from Life's Left Hooks

Waiting for the words to come...

Sometimes life delivers a punch that knocks you flat and it’s hard to get your feet under you and get back to the writing again. I don’t talk much about my personal life. Mainly because writing about that includes people close to me and I don’t want to violate their privacy. This was particularly true of my husband. I sometimes wrote poetry about him, but never firmly defined who the poems were about or that they were anything more than fictional. That seemed a good way to process what I needed to process and shield him. In February his condition took a downturn and by the end of the month he was gone.

I’m not finding it so easy, but I am muddling through. I feel a bit like this tree—losing him hollowed me out. It amazes me that old oak still grows and sprouts leaves every spring. Proof it can be done I suppose. 

I don't know the steps you have to take to come back from this. Losing a spouse changes everything about your life. I think your art, the thing you create for the sheer love of it is always the way out of those dark places life dumps us in. At least it has worked for me in the past.

I am determined to fight my way back into something like a normal schedule this coming week. Yes, I do know I have said that a couple times. Progress is not as fast as I would like but it’s there and I keep taking the steps.

I had  book due out in Feb. I will make it a goal to have that up before months end. The release schedule should be back on track on the next couple of months. There is a new game and a new book mixed in with the re-release of books I’ve acquired my rights back to.

All virtual activities will resume on schedule this week.
* Hypergrid Nights on Wednesday evening at 6 SLT – we’re going to a birthday party and enjoying a little dancing.
* WIP this Sunday at noon SLT. If you want to hear about what has been happening with our Opensim in a browser experiments, be sure to be there.
* Everything Writing is on Monday evening, April 11th at 6 SLT.
* My next NPC workshop will be Sunday, April 17th at noon SLT.

 *Opensim Fashion Show will be April 23, noon SLT.

Not far down the trail from the first tree is this one.
 A hive of honey bees has taken up residence in the hollow. A little reminder that maybe you never completely fill the hole losing someone leaves, but eventually something new can grow there.



  1. oh Nara, such sad news...I hope you can find some kind of balance soon, or later, if needed.

  2. You are enveloped with love from the virtual realms. Peace to you sweet lady.

  3. Oh my goodness. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find peace and comfort soon. I know you have the courage to face the days ahead. We love and care about you, too.

  4. Oh my goodness. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find peace and comfort soon. I know you have the courage to face the days ahead. We love and care about you, too.

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  6. I am almost speechless my dear! As we celebrate 45 years of wedding bliss today I can not even imagine what it would be like for him to leave my side... I must admit I am a bit selfish in hoping I go beyond the veil first. You have my most heartfelt sympathy on this very tragic loss. Hopefully, knowing that your virtual friends are here for you will be of some solace... I can only imagine your grief, my heart shares your pain immensely. As Fred said may peace and comfort find you and please know we all love and care about you! Gentle hugs and sprinkles of pixie healing dust. ♥

  7. I'm so sorry, I know that's a profound loss and I'd encourage you to be as easy on yourself as you can. Do the virtual stuff if it gives you comfort, blow if off if it doesn't.

    Be easy on yourself, and know that you're in our thoughts and prayers.

  8. Thank you ll for the hugs, advice, and well wishes. It gives me strength.

  9. Dear Nara, I m so sorry... Not to much to say. I agree so much with Sunbeam, Fred, Serene, Mine and Han. They express all I wanted share with you. All my best thoughts with you.Take care of you more than ever.


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